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What to say to a stranger I'm attracted to through email?

 
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Metta
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PostPosted: Sun Mar 16, 2008 12:19 am    Post subject: What to say to a stranger I'm attracted to through email? Reply with quote

I'll explain the situation first:

I used to see this beautiful guy at a store I frequented, and I always hoped he would approach me or something would happen so that we could talk. I'm not usually so stunned by a stranger,but he really has an effect on me. Then I moved from the area and haven't seen him since, but this morning I happened to see him in the city (4 million population, what are the chances?). I literally have never been so drawn to a stranger before, it's an intense attraction. I have no idea if he's ever noticed me or has even seen me, he always seems to be focused on whatever he's doing at the time.

When I got home, I remembered where he worked and typed it into facebook, which pulled up a group for his workplace and there he was: I'd found his name, and now have access to get in touch by sending him a message. I know it's a weird situation but I'd really like the chance to get to know him better... And life is too short: who knows, he might be someone I'm meant to be with. I've never done anything like this before, and I feel a bit strange about it so I want to approach it the right way.

-What can I write to him? I know not to come on too strong, but how do I even begin? The way his facebook profile is set up, no one can view it unless they're on his friends list. So I can't say something like, "I saw your picture, you're cute." BUT I did see some pictures of him through his friend's profile. Not sure if I could use that somehow...

-For the guys: If you received a message from a stranger, what would you think? (I'm an attractive blonde and I don't think he's out of my league, but still...)

-Also, I found out that he's 19 (and I'm 26). I've never gone for a younger guy before: Is it too big an age gap? Does it seem weird for a woman to date someone that much younger? ... Maybe it will work to my advantage, I know a lot of younger guys want to be with slightly older girls.

Thanks for your help...
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PostPosted: Fri Mar 21, 2008 3:14 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Wow. What a story!
Definitely lucky to spot him in the city of millions!!
I should definitely email him and just say "i just came across your picture, i recognized you in the store that i frequently went to and wanted to know if you changed your jobs or something?" Wink

Or something to that effect!
Again. i have to admit. Very interesting story!

I he takes you out on a date some time, you should come back here and tell us how things went. Razz
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PostPosted: Fri Mar 21, 2008 10:18 pm    Post subject: (small) developments Reply with quote

thanks, i will.

so far this is what has happened: i emailed him and said: i know it seems weird but that i keep seeing him around and wondered if he'd like to have coffee sometime. he emailed me back a couple of days later (so by then i thought that was it, he thought i was some weirdo and ignored it)... he asked where i've seen him and how many times. (i guess maybe he was trying to place me?)

i wrote him back last night and told him that i used to live in the area he works in and saw him a few times in passing; that he got onto my subway train a few days ago and i thought why not say something but that i don't live in the area anymore. i added that i knew this all sounded bizarre, but it was a first for me so i wasn't really sure what else to say so, "feel free to ask me whatever". i think/hope/pray that was ok...

i am concerned that he'll think i'm a bloody desperate or crazy person but i don't think i've come off that way.

will let you know when he replies (optimism). i admit, it's an interesting story, maybe even somewhat romantic. who knows, maybe it's fate.

by the way: it's funny that you replied because his name happens to be alexander... gotta love synchronicity.
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PostPosted: Fri Mar 21, 2008 10:19 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

yeah, and more than just seeing him in the city: we were on the same subway train.
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PostPosted: Thu Aug 07, 2008 4:49 pm    Post subject: How Do Other People Feel About Dating? Reply with quote

I feel more comfortable and when dating now. I realize and that it is important then for me to make up my mind. By being clear and concern about the things I want and need then in a relationship. I also feel that respect is a key element to dating. How do you feel and or what do you think ?
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PostPosted: Thu Aug 07, 2008 4:50 pm    Post subject: How Do Other People Feel About Dating? Reply with quote

I feel more comfortable and when dating now. I realize and that it is important then for me to make up my mind. By being clear and concern about the things I want and need then in a relationship. I also feel that respect is a key element to dating. How do you feel and or what do you think ?

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PostPosted: Fri Sep 19, 2008 12:39 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

[quote="Metta"]yeah, and more than just seeing him in the city: we were on the same subway train.[/quote]

wow.... did anything happen between you two?
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