Love, Romance & Relationship Discussion

[Lisa843]

How do you cope with difficult people??

How do you deal with people that harrass and lash out, they accuse you of things you did not do, that try to bully and stalk you..for no apparent reason except they want to??

Do you waste your time and energy addressing their behavior....defending your self......or do you ignore it??

What is the best way to deal with people like that and situations similar to that??
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[Wolfey]

I always tried to be above it. But you can not let people walk all over you. The only reason people lash out or are nasty is to get what they want. Even if it is as silly as making themselves feel better. So I try not to give those people what they want.
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[Lisa843]

[quote="Wolfey"]I always tried to be above it. But you can not let people walk all over you. The only reason people lash out or are nasty is to get what they want. Even if it is as silly as making themselves feel better. So I try not to give those people what they want.[/quote]
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good advice!
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[stp23]

Your time and energy is precious because you don't have all the time in the world. You also don't have unlimited energy.

So....when it comes to difficult people you have to take the approach that allows you an exit without being hurt. You need to remember that they are not only being difficult with you, but with everyone else too. Therefore, never take it personal when you get the insults and name-calling. They are interiorly accusing themselves and throwing the insults at their own person.

One of the best books out there dealing with the handling of difficult people is "Verbal Judo" by George Thompson. Great book and definitely should be read by people who have to deal with difficult people on a daily basis.

Google it.

[Lisa843]

[quote="stp23"]Your time and energy is precious because you don't have all the time in the world. You also don't have unlimited energy.

So....when it comes to difficult people you have to take the approach that allows you an exit without being hurt. You need to remember that they are not only being difficult with you, but with everyone else too. Therefore, never take it personal when you get the insults and name-calling. They are interiorly accusing themselves and throwing the insults at their own person.

One of the best books out there dealing with the handling of difficult people is "Verbal Judo" by George Thompson. Great book and definitely should be read by people who have to deal with difficult people on a daily basis.

Google it. [/quote]
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great advice and info!! thanks!! appreciate it.
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[yandii]

Ignoring bitter things won't be that easy. Stay humble as you are. still, don't let people look down on you. You can always rely on your friends. The best thing you can do is understand the situation. If it already crossed your line, fight for the right thing. Do it.
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