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Wolsey
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PostPosted: Mon Jan 25, 2010 11:57 pm    Post subject: Need an outside perspective Reply with quote

Hi so I could use some advice here, I'll start with a little back story.
So about 8 months ago this new girl started at my work, and something just clicked in me. She's shy so it was rough-going getting to know her but eventually we started getting along and even doing the sort of playful teasing thing. At one point we exchanged numbers and here and there we text one another but not on a regular basis. She came out for the tail-end of my birthday shenanigans and there are times where I think she may actually be into me. Back in December we had our staff Christmas party, we were all a little tipsy but not flat-out drunk. At one point she came up to me and called me attractive twice, but we were in front of other co-workers so I didn't say anything. Then after I got home she called me and we talked for about 30mins, about nothing really but it was definitely not something that happens very often. After that things seemed to be different between us at work, like there was a sort of a distance between us for about 2 weeks, now we seem to be back to 'normal' routines. I've always been apprehensive about asking her out because we do work together and if things go south it could be awkward. Also we are both leaving this job soon (like in the next 3 months or so) and she's considering moving back home so I'm not sure if it would be appropriate to ask when she wants to leave. I'd really appreciate any advice on this matter that anyone would have, my friends tend to give me the same responses to this problem so I'm looking for outside perspectives.
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PostPosted: Wed Jan 27, 2010 3:45 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

A little dinner never hurt anyone. Spend some quality time with her, and take the time to know her a little better. Going after my dreams has caused some heartache, but never enough for me to reget my choices. Ask her out, have fun and see what happens.

Hope this helped.
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PostPosted: Mon Mar 15, 2010 7:55 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Wolsey,

I used to be so scared to talk to a women about these matters, and it is still not easy but I would say take the chance and tell her how you feel. She likes you or she would never have told you you are attractive. I know you are concerned about dating a co worker, but if it works out great and if it does not it may be a little awkward at first and than it will get better as time passes.

The main thing to consider is if you really like this girl go for it. if it works out great; if it doesn't or she does not want to get involved if she is leaving than you have made your feelings known. And, in the end ask yourself will you be happier that you told her how you feel, and that you did something or will you be happier wondering what could have been.

Trust me, from experience, you don't want to pass up an opportunity up because you are to shy and worried about the outcome. You are better off knowing the outcome, no matter what it is, than wondering about what could have been.
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PostPosted: Tue Mar 16, 2010 2:00 am    Post subject: Live Life Reply with quote

Ask yourself "what is the worst tht can happen"?. If you can live with the answer, move forward. I suggest that you stop being attached to the outcome and let things run its course. Your power is in the present moment. You want to take her out to dinner, not get married. At least, not yet Smile. You sound like a nice guy. If your intentions are good, do not worry about the outcome. It will work out the way it should. That's the thing about love and dating, it's all about taking chances.

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PostPosted: Tue May 04, 2010 12:57 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I agree! Que sera sera!
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