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Alegria
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PostPosted: Tue Jan 09, 2007 12:14 am    Post subject: Starting Over Reply with quote

I married a man who was the most talented, charming person I had ever met. After four years of marriage I also realized that he was also a very controlling, insecure person who I was unable to have a healthy relationship with. In retrospect, I should have seen the signs but I married young and was very naieve and idealistic. After years of trying to make the relationship work I realized that it was impossible as he was unwilling to see how his behaviour towards me was destructive and abusive. I eventually left the marriage and have spent the last two years getting my life back together.

I am a lot happier and have been pursuing all of the things that I sacraficed in order to stay in the marriage. I have gone back to school and am working two jobs. I have very supportive friends and family and am quite proud of myself for my accomplishments. We never had kids as I was smart enough to realize that my relationship was struggling to thrive. My break up with my ex was horrendously painful as he treated me even worse then he did in the marriage. I let him keep all of our belongings as he used everything he could to hurt and control me. And at this point I just wanted him out of my life.

My problem is that he refuses to divorce me and I am not in a financial position to pay for a divorce without his consent. I want to get a divorce as I am afraid that he will try to hurt me further. I have no interest of pursuing new relationships at this point I just want to know that he can not hurt me financially as I am aware that if he goes into debt or does something stupid it could hurt me financially. Also, pychologically I need to get divorced so that I feel that I am not tied to him. Does anyone have any advice on what I should do.
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 14, 2007 4:23 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Well, I guess getting some legal advice would be better? Hmmm... if there is a need, maybe your family could help out a bit financially to just get things down with once and for all...?
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PostPosted: Mon Jan 29, 2007 5:02 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Best of luck to you ! Very Happy
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