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Watching porn- what's he thinking? does it mean anything?

 
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PostPosted: Sat Oct 11, 2008 11:17 pm    Post subject: Watching porn- what's he thinking? does it mean anything? Reply with quote

Let me say this first- it can be fun to pick at it, me and my bf both enjoy that aspect too, but I do like watching porn, even enjoy looking at other girls in them (i'm bi), and it can be fun watching with my bf.

i'd like to think i'm pretty secure with our relationship, not to mention i didn't mind any of this watching porn with him before, we'd go to porn stores and browse, i'd even suggest titles with some degree of excitment. And I'd love hearing his feedback on the film while we're watching- what he thought of certain scenes, certain porn stars, certain positions or whatever, even when he was describing what he like about some woman.

But lately (idk if its surging hormones or what), i almost feel sick when he suggests one, thinking of him watching these other girls with perfectly toned, sexy bodies i'll likely never have and getting aroused by it. I feel a bit sick thinking he thinks about that kind of thing/them even when we're not watching and wondering if he almost prefers looking at them, wants them, getting off thinking about them, and if it detracts from what he feels for me. Insight please!! I'm half afraid to ask even if i'm [almost] sure it means nothing. Details would be awesome

I know from when we've talked, while watching them and in regular conversation, he's said that when we're watching he's picturing me in place of the other girls, but can i beleive him? Does that in general mean anything? And if that's true, then why watch if he's just picturing me? i'm right there
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PostPosted: Thu Oct 16, 2008 9:52 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I would venture the opinion that he enjoys the porn for its own sake and not to fantasize you in the place of the actresses. As a man, I can say that men don't do that, but rather they watch the porn to watch the actress, not their current lover. If you're into watching it with him, that's something you choose to do as a couple, but don't get sentimental thinking that its about putting you in there. If that hurts your feelings, I'm sorry, but it's a natural fact that men do that.

My advice is that if you like watching it with him, watch it for the reasons you mentioned that you enjoy. It'll spice things up for you later. If it bothers you to watch it with him, then I suggest that you learn to do some entertaining for him....freak him out with an unexpected lapdance or some kinky lingerie. In other words, turn the attention onto YOU.
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 01, 2008 5:25 pm    Post subject: This is normal Reply with quote

I think this is normal - don't be jealous with him. It's better to watch porn and fantacise the actresses than to cheat you with real women.
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PostPosted: Fri Dec 05, 2008 4:19 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

To me it is still cheating. Ok, you might not be with that woman for real, but you rather be with that woman than your wife/gf, and you spend your time making love to no one but yourself, while your poor wife or gf is wondering to herself.. why? ..what does she got that I don't have? It's not being with that woman body to body, but it is still cheating your wife or gf in the mind and in the heart, and out of time you could be with her. I mean if you rather waste your time dreaming of making love to someone you'll never be with, and have an unhappy marriage or relationship, than that's your problem, not mine.
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PostPosted: Fri Dec 05, 2008 4:29 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I agree with Max on that. It is cheatign your wife and i am most certian that its the opposite than your husband tells you: whle doign it with youhe pistcure those women in place of oyu.. thats sure and certain, men often do that so its not normal to watch so muhc porn while arried and its a bit sick even.
I will even add that if you flirt with other woman its also cheatign your wife or gf for time with her and for flirting her instead, cuase its always good for a relationship to flirt and to say sweet things and strengenth the bond of freindship to, but if th emean instead of flirtign oyu flrit other girls and instend to strengenth bonds betweeny ou 2, make friends with a girl he flirt., even he can enver have her, then he weaken the bonds you have and make bad feelings ebtween the 2 of you.
its bad for any relationship nad thats why flirting is bad and not innocent.
you can say porn is cheating with the biody and flrit is cheatign with heart and mind. In any case its a lost for the relationship.
the time you dotrn sopend togfether and the quality time and kind word you odnt say to each others but to others, is waisted, we have only one life..
You have a sex based relation to your husband meaning a sex based marriage and thats very bad cause unhappy.
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PostPosted: Sat Dec 13, 2008 5:51 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

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PostPosted: Sun Dec 21, 2008 10:49 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

It is normal. Most guys watch porn because they are horny. Thats it. It is not because they prefer something different then what they getting at home.
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PostPosted: Tue Feb 03, 2009 12:17 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Hi,
I think watching porn is a good possibility to get some new ideas for the sexlife!They show so many new things and positions.Its like a guide of Sex and in my opinion very interesting.I would like to watch and do the things I see at the same time!Of course porn is really exerggerated but still its really interesting to watch espeacially with a partner and you definately get horny!
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