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My boyfriend is not attracted to me

 
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PostPosted: Wed Dec 27, 2006 4:59 pm    Post subject: My boyfriend is not attracted to me Reply with quote

Question My boyfriend and I have been together for about 9 months. The first part of the relationship was long distance, so I didn't really think anything of it when he seemed uncomfortable sexually. But, looking back, from the beginning he seemed hesistant about having sex with me. It was I who initiated our first time together and he just didn't seem as eager as I did. And to be honest with you, I can count how many times we have had sex in all of that time. I would say, and this is being generous, about 20 times, maybe, and as of now, I can't remember the last time we did it, maybe 2 months ago (we are around each other every day!) And when we do it, its over so fast. He is very affectionate in other ways, but when it comes to that, he just doesn't seem that interested. Its always some excuse. I used to be on him about it everyday, asking questions, but now I don't say anything and I think that he is happier with that. I have never had this problem before, my last boyfriend loved having sex with me, but now sometimes I doubt my ability to please someone sexually. Another thing is that he never compliments me. Ever. I always have to say something first. Even on my birthday, of all days, I was looking good and he didn't say anything until my roomate said something. I feel that I have tried to talk to him and approach this situation in an adult manner, but I feel jilted. He never presented this side of himself before we started dating. I even asked him if he was gay. Nothing. And I see him checking out other women so I know that he is at least attracted to females. I feel that I am too young to give up my sexual life and not just on a physical level, but what it can help nurture between man and woman who love each other. I am not ugly, I just finished modeling not even a year ago, I am not overweight, I am not a prude in bed either, I don't stink. I feel I have tried everything and its frustrating to see someone that you love so much, so happy not to be close to you, just not that way. Truth be told, I miss the intimacy more than anything. I miss being desired and looked at like a woman. I miss being touched. Really touched. I feel my hands are tied, what do I do?
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PostPosted: Mon Jan 08, 2007 4:33 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

oh god do I know how you feel. My last relationship was like. It was our third try at our relationship in 6 years. And this last time we were together for 5 1/2 months and we only had sex twice in that period of time. With a 4 month gap between the times. He rarely ever seemed interested in kissing me, I felt like I had to force it on him. He'd never stay in bed with me in the mornings to cuddle or anything. He has an illness and I just figured that was the problem...but I don't think that's a problem with him and his current girlfriend. Don't know but doubt it.

I'm sure our situations are completely different. I found out a couple weeks after breaking up with him that he had been trying to get me to break up with him for a long time. His excuse was "I figured it was her turn to do it beings I broke up with her the last couple times."

All I can say is don't give up on trying to find out what the problem is. Maybe he's just not a real sexual person in general. Or maybe he's not real comfortable with himself. Maybe he needs an ego boost. Did he seem shy to begin with? I know with a couple of my ex's I was always to uncomfortable to initiate. But I was always eager when they initiated.
If you can't figure him out and things don't change...you have to ask yourself if you can stand to put up with it. If not you may have to move on to be happier with someone else.

Good luck and take care.
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PostPosted: Wed Jan 10, 2007 9:24 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Seems to me that you two are, at the very least, sexually incompatible and your needs are not being met.

I'd split. But that is me, because sex is very important to me.
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PostPosted: Mon Jan 15, 2007 5:29 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

It hurst when you try hard for someone to see you but they just don'e. But you knwo what to hell with him and that. No man can make you feel "not beautiful" or not 'sexually attractive" enough. Ignore him sexually and see how he reacts. And keep it going until he realizes what he's doing. Let the tables be turned is what I'm basically saying. Too many times we let a guy that's not worth a cent dictate who we are and how much confidence we should have in our looks. Screw that nonsense. No more, no more!
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PostPosted: Fri Feb 02, 2007 7:50 pm    Post subject: Thanks Everyone Reply with quote

I read all of your comments about my situation and I have decided that things are past talking about. I feel okay, believe it or not. I don't think that I am making the wrong choice either. Its not me, its him and too be honest, the days of me crying and doubting myself are over with. I can only worry about myself and future. Love is for the birds right now.. And maybe in the future, when I meet a "real man".
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PostPosted: Fri Feb 02, 2007 8:26 pm    Post subject: Re: My boyfriend is not attracted to me Reply with quote

[quote:06dc602d78="voice"]Question My boyfriend and I have been together for about 9 months. The first part of the relationship was long distance, so I didn't really think anything of it when he seemed uncomfortable sexually. But, looking back, from the beginning he seemed hesistant about having sex with me. It was I who initiated our first time together and he just didn't seem as eager as I did. And to be honest with you, I can count how many times we have had sex in all of that time. I would say, and this is being generous, about 20 times, maybe, and as of now, I can't remember the last time we did it, maybe 2 months ago (we are around each other every day!) And when we do it, its over so fast. He is very affectionate in other ways, but when it comes to that, he just doesn't seem that interested. Its always some excuse. I used to be on him about it everyday, asking questions, but now I don't say anything and I think that he is happier with that. I have never had this problem before, my last boyfriend loved having sex with me, but now sometimes I doubt my ability to please someone sexually. Another thing is that he never compliments me. Ever. I always have to say something first. Even on my birthday, of all days, I was looking good and he didn't say anything until my roomate said something. I feel that I have tried to talk to him and approach this situation in an adult manner, but I feel jilted. He never presented this side of himself before we started dating. I even asked him if he was gay. Nothing. And I see him checking out other women so I know that he is at least attracted to females. I feel that I am too young to give up my sexual life and not just on a physical level, but what it can help nurture between man and woman who love each other. I am not ugly, I just finished modeling not even a year ago, I am not overweight, I am not a prude in bed either, I don't stink. I feel I have tried everything and its frustrating to see someone that you love so much, so happy not to be close to you, just not that way. Truth be told, I miss the intimacy more than anything. I miss being desired and looked at like a woman. I miss being touched. Really touched. I feel my hands are tied, what do I do?[/quote:06dc602d78]

Aw.. well, first.. don't think that you are the one with the problem.
Second.. is this man the only man left in the world? I think not. Laughing
Don't let men make you feel this way. Good luck with your love life ! Very Happy
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PostPosted: Sat Feb 03, 2007 12:20 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Oh dear, it sounds like you've made a good decision!

I applaude you! Those decisions are HARD to make.

Footloose and fancy free! Good for you!

Live it up!
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PostPosted: Fri Feb 08, 2008 9:23 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I totally understand where you were coming from. It's hard to have a relationship with no intimacy. I've had this same problem and I always joke to my bf that he is 'gay.' I think it sucks when you have to force a kiss out of them. :/ It makes you feel not good enough--or something.
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PostPosted: Sat Mar 08, 2008 7:52 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Just yesterday my boyfriend told me how he's not as attracted to me 'cause I'm not as fit as I was in the summer, and how "asses" are a huge thing to him and mine has changed a bit since I haven't been at the gym, that and my thighs. Basically explains why he doesn't wanna have sex, or why he doesn't touch me. Not to get technical but the only reason he says he does it from behind is because my ass stretches and looks different...I'm really upset and kind of insulted...I don't wanna be touched by him, I feel he was so fake with me..I don't know.
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PostPosted: Tue Mar 18, 2008 1:31 pm    Post subject: hi Reply with quote

Its very tragic situation, you must broke the relationship in which you are not comfortable in, and love and sex can not run from one side.


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