Love, Romance & Relationship Discussion Forum Index Love, Romance & Relationship Discussion
Share with us problems and questions regarding love relationship
 
 FAQFAQ   SearchSearch   MemberlistMemberlist   UsergroupsUsergroups   RegisterRegister 
 ProfileProfile   Log in to check your private messagesLog in to check your private messages   Log inLog in 

scared of living with significant other?

 
This forum is locked: you cannot post, reply to, or edit topics.   This topic is locked: you cannot edit posts or make replies.    Love, Romance & Relationship Discussion Forum Index -> Breaking Up
View previous topic :: View next topic  
Author Message
missmeg29
Member
Member


Joined: 09 Mar 2007
Posts: 27

PostPosted: Mon Apr 30, 2007 8:11 pm    Post subject: scared of living with significant other? Reply with quote

do you believe one can be a commitment phobe if they've been in a long term relationship, want to spend the rest of their life with that person, but has some hesitation about marriage and moving in? They develop anxiety about it? Or could it be that more needs to be worked on in the relationship?
Back to top
View user's profile Send private message
Brandon
Senior Member
Senior Member


Joined: 25 Jan 2007
Posts: 970

PostPosted: Mon Apr 30, 2007 8:25 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

There is no sure thing in anything ones does. We take chances with everything we do in life. Marriage is a big step. It is so easy to say I
do than it is to get out of it. The thing is.. you never know until you try.
I can't say anything about the relationship, I would need more info..like
has he done anything that would make you feel like not moving in or getting married to this guy? If so, than I can see why you feel this way
and posted the questions you did.
_________________
[img:6d05ac68bc]http://i85.photobucket.com/albums/k45/TawnysHere/bonjoviaugust.jpg[/img:6d05ac68bc]
Back to top
View user's profile Send private message
Ocean
Senior Member
Senior Member


Joined: 25 Jan 2007
Posts: 581
Location: USA CA

PostPosted: Mon Apr 30, 2007 9:04 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Many people specially men are scared by real commitment and leaving their boys life behind. Some separate the day a child is born or a few months later because they are unable to cope with the responsability of beign a father, and while the woman has prepared herself for 9 months or more, the guy just never really thoguth of it, and pof! its there and they run away! some go after 3 months and others after 6 months..
it depends. They just dont want to be adults, they want to be boys and have fun and for them commitment is end of fun. Soem men are like that too, even over the 40, previously married or not, they feel like its putting the rope around their neck.. thats even as they put it..so..
They want passade, small affairs with no strings attached, some will like to can make a comitment but are unable have like a phoby with it and need to see a specialist for that.
Its soemthing else they are scared of but that they identify with marriage, and it ruin their life..
Some people live together unmarried over 5 years, and the day they get married all change and they break up a year later.
Everything is different for everybody and we cannot say what is what for whom just like that. There is no one rules for all, it depends on whom you are and whom the other one is.
thats all.
_________________
[img:83ab45b02c]http://i163.photobucket.com/albums/t320/Sophie-Ocean/LOVE%20SIGNS/i242340772_78787_5.gif[/img:83ab45b02c][img:83ab45b02c]http://i163.photobucket.com/albums/t320/Sophie-Ocean/SEXY%20SIGNS/i239416537_52113_5.gif[/img:83ab45b02c]
Back to top
View user's profile Send private message
Ocean
Senior Member
Senior Member


Joined: 25 Jan 2007
Posts: 581
Location: USA CA

PostPosted: Mon Apr 30, 2007 9:15 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I agree with Mel that there is no sure things in life also in marriage, and we cannot know from before, but soem times we can know from before things who can say its a go for life, but it demand some life experience to can know that, to can knwo this special feeling from others, and it is also true that we take chances with all we do in life.
Marriage is a huge things in what it mean for the person, but for more it is easier to come out than it was to come into it..
They really take time and are suspicious about marriage but not about going away.
Coming out of it can be difficult for different reasons, all depending how long it hs been.
If it has been very long it can be easier to come out of it, as easy as if it had been only a couple of years, because of all the disagreements who have build up in it,so that both are super sure they want to end it.
So both in or out, its all depend on circumstances and on the 2 persons involved. It is always very complicated. All human relationships are.
_________________
[img:83ab45b02c]http://i163.photobucket.com/albums/t320/Sophie-Ocean/LOVE%20SIGNS/i242340772_78787_5.gif[/img:83ab45b02c][img:83ab45b02c]http://i163.photobucket.com/albums/t320/Sophie-Ocean/SEXY%20SIGNS/i239416537_52113_5.gif[/img:83ab45b02c]
Back to top
View user's profile Send private message
~Angel~
Member
Member


Joined: 20 Feb 2007
Posts: 350
Location: USA

PostPosted: Tue May 01, 2007 1:18 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

If you are having some conflicting feelings about moving in & marrying the person you are w/it might be a good idea to have a talk w/him. Let him know of your feelings, that way you 2 can sort them out. It would probably make you feel a lot better & also you can think more clearly about taking things to the next step of marriage & moving in together.
_________________
[img:c4d72b828f]http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v70/DJohnson/417563mxeyw1r5ja.gif[/img:c4d72b828f]
Back to top
View user's profile Send private message Visit poster's website
xke70
Member
Member


Joined: 17 Apr 2008
Posts: 2

PostPosted: Sun May 04, 2008 12:22 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

As a man who has been married and divorced twice, I can offer some advice. Two people totally in love with is a wonderful thing, keeping the love alive should be the most important thing on your list everyday. And living in seperate dwellings, sometimes, keeps the excitement in a relationship because you both are not with each other 24 hours a day. Each of you still have your alone time, time to work and take care of things that need to be done everyday without worring about taking care of your boyfriend or girlfriend.

It doesn't matter what the relationship is like in the beginning, full of lust, romance and excitement, eventually, the relationship changes into more of friendship with less sex and less excitement, this has happened to every couple I know to different degrees. This is only enhanced when you move in together, also, what kind of baggage do both of you carry? Kids, X's, etc.. The more you have, the harder it is.
Back to top
View user's profile Send private message
linda7333
Member
Member


Joined: 25 Sep 2009
Posts: 13

PostPosted: Sun Sep 27, 2009 5:28 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

http://stores.shop.ebay.co.uk/Selenes-Spells I split up with my boyfriend last week. I tried one
of selenes loves spells and after two days we are back togeher.
Back to top
View user's profile Send private message
Display posts from previous:   
This forum is locked: you cannot post, reply to, or edit topics.   This topic is locked: you cannot edit posts or make replies.    Love, Romance & Relationship Discussion Forum Index -> Breaking Up All times are GMT
Page 1 of 1

 
Jump to:  
You cannot post new topics in this forum
You cannot reply to topics in this forum
You cannot edit your posts in this forum
You cannot delete your posts in this forum
You cannot vote in polls in this forum

HomePage | Love Articles | Dating Services | Love Calculator | Feng Shui Modern Living | Art of Feng Shui


Powered by phpBB © 2001, 2005 phpBB Group