Your Own Love Letter in 6 Easy Steps
by Jill Brennan
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You want to
tell your partner how you feel about them but you end up staring
at a blank screen for so long you give up. Or you try a few lines
only to delete them all and start over. Again. Why is it so hard
to tell the loved one in our life exactly what they mean to us?
Do you struggle to find the words to properly convey how you feel?
Or is it that you just canít explain it? Donít let words get in
the way of telling your loved one how much they mean to you.
to be loved. When you are busy living life, there never seems time
to slow down and really savour that central relationship that makes
it all worthwhile. Oftentimes we think that those closest to us
know exactly how we feel about them and how important they are to
us. But the sad reality is that often they donít.
So how can you
write a love letter that you will feel proud to give and one that
your loved one will cherish for all time? Where do you start? Follow
these easy tips below and youíll be on your way in no time.
1. First write
down 5 things that you love about your partner and be as specific
as possible. Rather than writing that they are kind, instead be
detailed about how they are kind. Perhaps they always smile at waiters
in restaurants or they are great at making people feel included,
especially at parties.
2. Write down
5 things that they have done that confirms how much you love them
and again, give examples. Perhaps they enveloped you in a hug last
night when you were feeling frustrated about your family. Or maybe
they knew how disappointed you were when you missed out on that
promotion and they cooked a special meal to cheer you up.
3. Pick the
best three examples from each of the above categories and weave
them into your letter. You could start by saying ĎI love how youĖí
and then include the three examples from the first point. Then you
could say something like ĎI loved the way youĖí and then mention
the other examples. Make sure you emphasise how their actions made
you feel, how loved you felt and how grateful you are to have them
in your life.
4. It is best
to write up a draft first and then go over it to see if you can
improve it. Sometimes it helps to write up what you want to say,
edit it until it flows well and then leave it for a day or two before
going back for a final edit and polish.
5. Buy some
special paper and write out your letter. Donít worry if your handwriting
isnít perfect Ė itís distinctly yours and your loved one will appreciate
the time and effort you put into the letter. If you feel your writing
is so bad it will be difficult to read or if your illegible handwriting
is something youíve argued about before then pay to get it hand
written by a professional. At a stretch you could use a more romantic
font on your computer, say Garamond in italic, but you should really
only do that as a last resort. The more personal you can make your
letter the more your loved one will treasure it.
6. Think about
how you plan on delivering this letter to them. Will you slip it
in their briefcase? Mail it? Leave it under the pillow? Do you want
to be there when they open it? If you want to see their reaction,
then it is best to hand it to them. You could team the letter up
with a small gift like flowers or chocolate but make sure the gift
doesnít diminish the letter as you want that to be the main focus.
If a birthday
or anniversary or other special occasion is involved youíll want
to include mention of that too.
you're still not sure you're up to writing your own love letter,
donít worry. Jill Brennan has written a range of easy-to-use love
templates that you can use as is or incorporate into your own unique
letters. Go to: http://www.loveyouletters.com.
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