Dating Begins With Successful Flirting
by Alison Edwards
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Dating Begins With Successful Flirting
Why are some
people born natural flirts and others couldn't charm the backside
of a bus if their life depended on it?
The power of
flirting goes beyond attracting the opposite sex. Master the art
of flirting and you also become a friend magnet and can use your
skills to influence business relationships.
got it or you haven't!" is often what you will hear men saying when
they boast about their conquests. Women, on the other hand, are
more coy when talking about a man they have met. So as not to appear
full of herself, she will often say to her friends "Oooh, I don't
think he likes me, what do you think?" If she is a successful flirt,
however, she will be thinking along the same lines of a man, "Yeah,
he was putty in my hands!"
an art requiring confidence without being OTT. A successful flirt
knows how to get the balance just right; too much and there is a
real danger you will be labelled as "slimy" (if you're a man) and
"tarty" (if you're a woman).
doesn't come naturally to you, you can learn to flirt by building
your confidence, believing in yourself and interacting with other
Here are some
basic flirting tips which can be practised at work and/or on a social
1. Have Fun!
First and foremost
flirting is fun! Whether you are the flirter or the flirtee it makes
both parties smile (on the inside as well as the outside!). Don't
take it seriously; be playful, be light-hearted, be infectious!
2. Ooze Confidence
The best flirts
have a positive outlook on life and are happy with themselves. To
successfully flirt you need to feel good about yourself before you
are able to transmit this "feel good" factor to the opposite sex.
If you display a positive and optimistic attitude to life you will
find yourself connecting with people who are right for you.
3. Make the
Don’t wait for
someone to approach you. If it's someone at work you've got your
eye on, wait for them to go to the kitchen and then make a beeline
for the coffee machine. The same applies in a bar, wait for them
to go to the bar and then squeeze in next to them. Start with a
simple “Hello” and take things from there. What have you got to
4. Pay a compliment
and receive a smile
A genuine compliment
costs nothing and yet can make someone feel so special. If someone
looks great, tell them! If someone has achieved something to be
proud of, tell them! Once you start making someone feel good about
themselves, they are more likely to want to spend more time with
you! And if someone pays you a compliment, be proud of the compliment
and say “Thank you”!
5. Eye to Eye
is one of our most powerful communicating mechanisms. Most people
don’t have a problem making eye contact with someone they don’t
find attractive but they become awkward in front of people they
are attracted to. If you tend to look away at people you like, practice
making eye contact with people on your way to work, a quick glance
and then turn away. This is a good way to build up your confidence.
Don’t stare, however, this will make people feel uncomfortable!
6. Pitch your
Learn to vary
the tone, pitch and speed of your voice. A voice rich in tones sounds
far more interesting than one dull note!
A good flirt
has the ability to get people to open up and talk about themselves.
Pay attention when someone is talking to you and ask questions to
show you are interested. The best questions are the ones which will
lead to someone remembering a positive experience about themselves.
8. Move your
There are many
positive body language signs: lingering eye contact, smiling widely,
touching someone, head tilting to one side, running fingers through
hair, undivided attention but if you really want to let go and flirt
openly – dance! Dancing is a great form of self-expression allowing
you to interact with someone and connect.
9. Smile, Smile,
Make your smile
contagious! The more you smile the more people will want to know
you and be around you!
10. Don’t be
not involve being sexually explicit! Nor does it involve being offensive
if someone rejects your advances. If you have been flirting with
someone and are not receiving positive feedback don’t get disheartened
or take it personally, move on to the next person! You may want
to consider a different approach if you are getting a lot of rejections.
11. Send an
Emails are a
great way to communicate with someone if you're too shy to approach
them face to face. Whether it's someone you are interested in at
work or you want to try internet dating, emails and instant messaging
allow you to flirt without blushing or getting tongue-tied.
Be careful not
to become intimate online too quickly though; it's easy to paint
a rosy picture of the person behind the monitor but until you have
met them you don't really know them. My message here is get to know
someone online before arranging a date, but don't fall in love before
meeting them! The reality could burst the bubble!
got the idea now so the next time you’re online, in the supermarket,
in a night club or at work and someone catches your eye, flirt with
By Alison Edwards
Edwards writes articles for http://www.SnappyDates.com
a UK based dating site. SnappyDates.com
is an active community where people of all ages meet looking for
a relationship, friendship and even marriage!
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