Advice: There Is This One Special Girl I'm Longing For
by Giuseppe Notte
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There Is This One Special Girl I'm Longing For
Be honest. It
has happened to all of us. There was this girl... A girl you might
have never even talked to... But still... You couldn't help but
think about her all day... And the more you thought about her, the
less courage you had to go up to her and invite her for a get-together.
The above situation
repeats itself from time to time. Back in high school with the girl
who went one class below you, at university with that wonderful
woman who always sat in the second row or later with the lady who
works at the room next to yours.
And the damn
feeling, this one-sided "love" keeps reappearing and making your
life a misery. The more you idolize these girls, the further they
go from your reality, and being with them one day in the future
becomes nothing more than a mere fantasy.
In a relationship but more importantly, when going out for the first
time with somebody, it's always the person with less emotional involvement
who dictates and chooses. This means if you go out with a girl,
and you let your happiness depend on how the date goes, you are
ruining your chances before you had any. The more you stress yourself
about a certain girl, the more emotionally involved you become and
as a result, you are almost GUARANTEED to get rejected.
Girls like to look up to their men for something. If you ask some
girls who are in love with their partners, they will always adore
him for something in his personality. It doesn't matter why, but
a woman has to look up to her man. If you idolize a girl and put
her on a pedestal, she will sense it instantly. She will feel that
SHE IS THE ONE IN CONTROL. As soon as this happens, you are NOT
A CHALLENGE for her anymore. The result? You get rejected.
When you have to work hard for your chocolate, it will always taste
sweeter. If you walk into the supermarket and choose one from the
huge collection of sweets, there is no challenge in it. But when
you have to work hard to get that "one special" chocolate... Now
that's a CHALLENGE! It's the same with women. If you are not that
easy to get, if she senses that you might leave (and don't come
back) in any moment, she will be challenged and likely to become
attracted to you.
Have you ever
seen 8 guys drooling over the same woman, fighting for her attention?
Which one of them do you think has got the girl? The 9 th, who was
watching from a distance while showing no interest towards her.
The girl thought: "Why doesn't he come here like all the other guys?
Doesn't he like me? I must find out why..." In the end, it was the
girl who approached the guy and wanted something from him. Now that's
the POWER OF CHALLENGE and CURIOSITY. Never underestimate it!
When you think
you "love" a girl you have never even talked to, you keep going
round and round in a vicious circle. You keep playing with the thought
of being with this "one special girl" in various situations. This
projection of pictures in your mind creates a lot of energy. This
energy wants to explode and unless it can do so (by being with the
girl you dream about) it will create a lot of stress and tension
inside you. It's an endless loop. If you try to ignore the feeling
with force, it will reappear and become even stronger.
this is not "real love"; it's just a form of LUST TO POSSESS. You
don't even know this girl; you are just driving yourself around
in this circle. The solution? First, admit this feeling to yourself,
then carry on with your life. Don't ignore it; just notice that
it's inside and you can't do anything about it. Try to watch yourself
from "the outside", from a neutral point of view. And the second
step is to focus your energy on something else. Like going out and
meeting other women. As soon as you kiss or get closer to another
girl, this "one special lady" will be of less importance to you.
is a secret. Even the biggest badass players get this feeling from
time to time. They just learn to deal with it, and thanks to their
skills, it's easier for them to get other women and focus on them
instead. You can do yourself two big favors. First, learn to get
over your fear and approach the woman you are longing for. That
way even if you get rejected, it happens sooner and you haven't
wasted weeks or months from your life. The second is to learn how
to get women. Not only for knowing how to deal with this girl, but
with that skill, it will also be easier to heal your wounds and
get over her.
I teach both
of these in a book I've written. It's an e-book called "All About
Women: The Encyclopedia Of Seduction". Apart from the above, I cover
each step of the seduction process, from A to the Z. From understanding
the way women think, to learning to be a Man who attracts girls
with his presence, approaching women the right way, secrets of making
your dates successful and effective, improving your sexual life
and a lot, lot more... Whether you are ugly, bald, young, old or
broke, the techniques I teach will work for you like charm!
By Giuseppe Notte. All Rights Reserved.
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