Dating: It Pays to Date Like-Minded People
the perfect mate can be one of life's greatest challenges.
After all, forever
is a long time. You want to make the right decision.
can be really trying. It can be hard to find the right people. What
if they don't share the same values and beliefs that you do? How
do you handle that and when?
be easier to know ahead of time that they are Jewish, just like
be easier to know their respect for God and other people, values
and beliefs, mirrors your own?
I know my own
dating experiences were trying at best. My stomach used to churn
before hand. I'd be so excited to meet new people, only to cringe
as that feeling was replaced with absolute, crushing hopelessness
as the person demonstrated a trait I knew I just wouldn't be able
If they said
something snide about children and my being a parent, I knew it
was over. If they weren't pet people, it was going nowhere.
If they were
vulgar, ignorant, not funny or if God didn't have a place in their
life like mine, what could we possibly have in common?
A few incidents
come to my mind. The dental hygienist who chain-smoked. The girl
who didn't shave her legs, her armpits and didn't wear deodorant
(it took a few dates to begin to figure this one out).
I remember one
Friday night where I thought I had met someone with real potential.
She was highly educated, respectful and thoughtful. Several dates
later, she showed up at my house with an open bottle of wine, already
drunk. And then she stormed off when I mentioned concern that she
had been drinking and driving.
So how do you
find the right people? How do you at least give a first date a chance,
by taking the time to get to know people coming from a similar place
can be a popular source, if there are lots of employees and some
that believe in God as you do.
But what if
you work too much and don't have time to meet people? Or, what if
meeting people is quite a scary experience, and you'd like to find
a 'like minded group of people', that you can get to know via email
first before actually meeting?
more and more, is the Internet. Never before has the world's millions
of Jewish singles, been able to find sources of other singles who
are just like they are.
The best part
is these specific sources of singles can be pre-determined ahead
of time. For instance, you'll know you're talking to someone who
is Jewish, because you found their ad on a Jewish dating site.
Much easier than trying to make these discoveries of values and
beliefs over coffee or dinner.
You can further
refine your search by specific age ranges, kids or not, divorced
or not, white, black, location, income level, career path, Yankees
fan or not (very important!), etc.
I finally found
my Soul Mate through a personals ad on a website. We lived in different
communities but on the same island (20 miles apart). More importantly,
our hearts, beliefs, values, sense of humor and general outlooks
were very similar. And we knew that before ever meeting.
It was wonderful
courtship. We married the next year. And to this day, many years
later, we laugh that the first date never ended.
You too can
have this Jewish dating experience, when you find a source of like-minded
people to start to get to know.
Dating Now is a one-stop-shop relationship web portal catering to
Jewish Singles. Hundreds of pages of resources, reviews & referrals.
Amazing source of Jews looking for dating, love and marriage. http://tinyurl.com/5fs7q
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