Date Tips and Tricks
by Marisa Pellegrino
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Date Tips and Tricks
The first date:
what to wear, where to go, what to say, what to do and what not
to do. All this pressure to make a good first impression can be
daunting. After all, you know practically nothing about each other
and the whole point of a first date is to judge (as much as we don’t
like to admit it) whether or not we think we’d like to get to know
each other better. But first dates don’t have to be elaborate or
fancy in order for you to secure that coveted second or third date.
There are some things you will want to do and others you will want
to avoid on a first date to ensure its success and the possibility
of future dates as well.
When it comes
to dating, it seems everyone thinks they’re the expert to turn to
for advice. Whether it’s your friends or your lovable aunts who
constantly inquire about your love life, everyone has a dating tip
for you. But we all know what to do on a date, don’t we? Always
have a smile, listen attentively, be yourself, have fun, and the
list goes on. So, if everyone knows the tips for successful dating,
then why do we go through so much trouble and anxiety about first
dates? Maybe it’s because there is no set standard of rules anymore.
Once upon a
time, chivalry was the norm. Nowadays, some women get offended when
the door is held open or their seat is pulled out for them. Consequently,
many single people are at a loss when it comes to knowing what to
do and when to do it. And while there may not be an ultimate list
of shoulds and should nots, there are still some common dating tips
that everyone can agree on.
- It is important
to be attentive to your date and this includes listening to what
they are saying (and maybe throwing in a question or two) and
maintaining eye contact when in a conversation.
- There is
nothing worse than meeting your date and not knowing what you’re
going to do. If you have something planned ahead of time, it shows
you put some thought into it.
- If you go
out for dinner, why not split the bill? Sure, you were invited
out and your date is expected to pay but offer anyway. And if
your date picks up the tab, offer to pay the next time.
- By all means,
call your date if you say you’re going to call! If you didn’t
have a good time then be courteous, and don’t promise to get in
touch when you really have no intention of doing so.
- Be polite;
turn off your cell phone and stop the wandering eyes. There is
nothing ruder than taking a casual call from a friend or ogling
the waitress at the next table while your date is attempting to
hold your attention.
- While talking
about past relationships almost always comes up in conversation,
don’t start telling your date every last detail; they are not
- And believe
me, chivalry is not dead; women do appreciate it, just don’t overdo
In this world
of women’s independence, many are taking it upon themselves to ask
the man out. And why not?! It shows confidence and is a turn-on
for many men. Keep in mind though, confidence is sexy, arrogance
is a turn off.
will have a different answer when you ask them their opinion on
whether or not a kiss is acceptable on the first date. Maybe all
you want to do is hold hands or snuggle and save the kiss for another
date. It all depends on the chemistry between you and whether or
not it feels right. And if it does, then go for it. Of course, if
the date isn’t going well, feel free to end the date early with
everyone’s favorite backup “emergency” phone call from a friend.
Chances are if you’re not having a good time, neither is your date!
has broadened your outlook on the world of “first dates”. The whole
point of a first date is to figure out if you want to get to know
the person better. Remember, when it comes to dating and tips, just
follow your instinct and no matter the outcome, have fun, enjoy
yourself, and relax.
Pellegrino is freelance journalist and a writer for a Montreal radio
show called Passion, a program about dating, relationships, and
sex. She is also the writer/webmaster for Dating Ideas www.dating-idea.com
a website with advice about dating and relationships. Or, you can
email her at: firstname.lastname@example.org
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